07 October 2010

The Invisible Military Spouse


Do you see me? Here I am, look!
I’m behind the big flag that represents our nation and all that it stands for.

Now do you see me? No?
I’m behind the large army awaiting the orders of the Commander in Chief.

You still don’t see me?
Look behind the brigade of soldiers standing at attention, “ready to do battle on your behalf.”

Do you see me now?
I’m back here…waving at you from behind the man I chose to love and honor through good and bad, sickness and health.

You still don’t see me?
I am a military spouse.
Though I am invisible to you, just know that I am here.
I am the safety net that catches my soldier when he comes home from deployment. I have a job that requires me to be on call 24/7, yet no one pays me for it. I have real desires, real goals, and ambitions of my own; I’ve just chosen to put them aside for the good of my family and my nation. My life has all the restrictions of the military, but none of the recognition. My life is not my own.

I am a military spouse. I am strong, yet I am growing weary.
How long must I remain invisible before I simply cease to exist?

I am a military spouse.
Though you might not see me, I am here.
I am still standing behind that man, who stands behind that brigade, which stands behind that army, which stands behind that nation, which serves and protects you.

I am a military spouse. Do you see me?

Wordless Wednesday...a little bit late!








01 October 2010

The College Game

Tink is a junior this year, so she will most likely apply to colleges next August/September (early decision and otherwise). The college “application season” generally spans from August through January (some schools extend through as late as March), but many Tier 1 and 2 schools tend to receive an onslaught of applications early in the season.

Though we’ve discussed and researched colleges/universities that are strong in the area Tink would like to pursue (sciences) we had yet to begin to seriously compile information to aid in making application to such schools. This is an important step because many colleges/universities have special application requirements for homeschoolers (another area in which homeschoolers are discriminated…but, I digress).

Yesterday, I was thrilled to find out about a College Fair being held in a nearby large public venue. This college fair was scheduled to have approximately 65 schools represented. A number that, imo, was sure to include at least a few schools we’ve discussed in the past. And so, dh, Tink and I attended our very first college fair last night.

Now, some of you may wonder why a 16yo junior would need to attend a college fair. Truth be told, I am a major planner. I can’t imagine not having a “game plan” to maneuver the whole college process. Talking to admissions counselors was the first “play” in the game plan. I figured if we’re going to win this college admissions game (and make no mistake…it is a game, complete with strategy and opponents) then we better make the first offensive move. My thoughts were confirmed, as each of the admissions representatives we spoke too stated that NOW (junior year) is the time to begin.

One of the best things about talking with admissions counselors was the fact that if we came armed with questions (which we did) the counselors were more than willing to provide very useful information. We were able to present Tink’s “game stats” and were able to inquire about merit scholarships that her stats would make her eligible for. Since we’ve said over and over to our dc, “it’s either scholarships (academic or athletic) or it’s Uncle Sam U (a.k.a. the army), hearing from the admissions officers that Tink would definitely be in the running for merit scholarships (most likely full academic scholarship) makes us even more determined to stay the course as we educate our younger dc.

Of the 65 schools represented, there were only 3 that we were interested in at this time: Davidson College, Appalachian State, and Wake Forest (OF COURSE!!!!). All three were very interested in Tink and were eager to get her out for an “official” school visit to allow her to sit in classes for a day, set her up with a student contact, meet with the “diversity” representatives, etc. It was very encouraging. Thankfully, Tink is not interested in UNC or NC State. (The lines to talk to those counselors were HORRENDOUS!)

One thing I was disappointed about was the lack of representation of the MOST competitive schools in the nation. The only Top 50 (nationally ranked)Tier 1 schools represented were Wake Forest University (#25 National Universities) and Davidson College (#9 Liberal Arts Colleges). Even Duke was absent, which was surprising. I had to wonder about this. But, alas, that is for another blog post on another day.

All in all, I was very happy with our experience. I’m hoping we’ll find some larger College Fairs within decent proximity to our locale so we can continue this adventure. Anyone want to join us next time?